You don’t know what you’re talking about!

Leaders sometimes find themselves in situations when meeting debate starts out as polite dialogue and then as emotions and passions take over, it erupts into heated argument and maybe red-faced name calling.

If you’re not careful you too can be drawn into the fray. After all as the leader you were just trying to facilitate debate and all of a sudden you’ve got two people who seem to be ready to pull out dueling pistols and step off ten paces. These idiots have disrupted your meeting and now you are mad at them for causing a disturbance and abandoning civility. If you are not careful what you say you could lose all control of the meeting (if you haven’t already).

How does a leader practice tolerance for another person’s opinions and beliefs?

Dictionaries explain that tolerance is “the disposition to be patient with the beliefs, opinions and practices of others, especially those differing from one’s own.” Some definitions say that tolerance is “respect” for such differences, others that it is a “permissive attitude” toward them — thereby suggesting the divergent ways that tolerance has been understood and practiced.

Leaders then, by these definitions, need to be:

  1. Respectful – Understand that there will be diverse opinions as you lead and let people know that their positions will be listened to and considered. Not only are you being respectful to them, your approach will win their respect.
  2. Patient – Someone who is passionate about a subject just wants to be heard. Being patient and listening intently as they express their views will show you truly care.
  3. Permissive – Create an organizational culture that welcomes diverse opinions. Demonstrate this by allowing thoughtful dialogue even though you may disagree with the subject.

Aristotle, the Ancient Greek Philosopher, Scientist and Physician, said:

“It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.”

The practice of tolerance will raise your worth as a leader and a person. Let’s all try to be tolerance leaders.

Have a great Masonic day!

Why I’m glad I didn’t win the Mega Millions jackpot

I’m not a regular lottery ticket buyer but yes I got sucked into the frenzy of the latest huge jackpot. I had a winning scratch off ticket from a batch my wife gave me as a birthday present so I spent half of it on the ticket you see here. As you can see I didn’t even come close.

I’m glad I didn’t win because I would have been forced to do some things with the money that potentially would have made me not too proud of myself. It has been said that money cannot buy happiness, but if you had more than you would ever need, it can certainly help get rid of some irritating things you encounter in life.

Here is a list of things that really grate on me and how I would have used the lottery winnings to get rid of them:

  1.  Getting rid of people who just don’t like their jobs – after hearing from friends about several instances this past week where they encountered poor customer service from people who shouldn’t been hired in the first place, I would use some lottery winnings to buy the companies they work for, fire these people and hire people who care.
  2. Getting rid of idiot drivers  – I would make a large donation to the police departments in my area to fund a traffic enforcement taskforce and their sole purpose would be to ticket drivers who:
    1. Run red lights
    2. Drive fast and erratically
    3. Text and drive
    4. Tailgate
    5. Drive will drunk
  3. Getting rid of people with poor attitudes – This potentially could be a tall order and I might need some help on coming up with the best method. One might be to offer these people a large cash bonus and a one-way ticket to a large island I purchase in the middle of the ocean somewhere.
  4. Getting rid of irritating celebrities who always seem to be in trouble – offer the public cash not to go to their movies, watch their reality shows, and cash to the news media not to write about them, take their pictures or give them a platform to air their unintelligent views.

I’ve just noticed that a pattern has emerged about what irritates me; people. Oops, that’s not good for someone who has written the past three years encouraging leaders to build strong positive relationships with people.

So maybe I should end by taking the high road. That means I have to change the title of this post to; “I wish I had won Mega Millions so I could use the money to help those who are irritating and need help.” Or something similar to that.

Since I didn’t win I’ll just follow Mother Teresa’s profound formula for living:

  •  People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered; forgive them anyway.
  •  If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; be kind anyway.
  •  If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true friends; succeed anyway.
  •  If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; be honest and frank anyway.
  •  What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight; build anyway.
  •  If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; be happy anyway.
  •  The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow; do good anyway.
  •  Give the world your best anyway.

You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God; it was never between you and them anyway.

Have a Great Masonic Day!

You don’t know what you’re talking about!

Leaders sometimes find themselves in situations when meeting debate starts out as polite dialogue and then as emotions and passions take over, it erupts into heated argument and maybe red-faced name calling.

If you’re not careful you too can be drawn into the fray. After all as the leader you were just trying to facilitate debate and all of a sudden you’ve got two people who seem to be ready to pull out dueling pistols and step off ten paces. These idiots have disrupted your meeting and now you are mad at them for causing a disturbance and abandoning civility. If you are not careful what you say you could lose all control of the meeting (if you haven’t already).

How does a leader practice tolerance for another person’s opinions and beliefs?

Dictionaries explain that tolerance is “the disposition to be patient with the beliefs, opinions and practices of others, especially those differing from one’s own.” Some definitions say that tolerance is “respect” for such differences, others that it is a “permissive attitude” toward them — thereby suggesting the divergent ways that tolerance has been understood and practiced.

Leaders then, by these definitions, need to be:

  1. Respectful – Understand that there will be diverse opinions as you lead and let people know that their positions will be listened to and considered. Not only are you being respectful to them, your approach will win their respect.
  2. Patient – Someone who is passionate about a subject just wants to be heard. Being patient and listening intently as they express their views will show you truly care.
  3. Permissive – Create an organizational culture that welcomes diverse opinions. Demonstrate this by allowing thoughtful dialogue even though you may disagree with the subject.

Aristotle, the Ancient Greek Philosopher, Scientist and Physician, said:

“It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.”

The practice of tolerance will raise your worth as a leader and a person. Let’s all try to be tolerance leaders.

Have a great Masonic day!