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How to discover WHY you are a Mason

by Mike
July 11th, 2012

Has anyone every asked you “What is a Mason?” and then asked why you became a Mason? More importantly, have you ever asked yourself these same questions and deeply thought about them?

Up until several months ago I really never gave it deep thought. I was, when asked these questions by non-Masons, able to give some type of an answer but it didn’t come from any intense soul-searching. My discovery began when I became aware of a book by Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action

The premise Simon Sinek outlines in his book uses a concept he calls the Golden Circle as depicted in the graphic on the left. The outside circle he labels “what. Moving inward he labels the next circle “how.” And finally the innermost circle he labels “why.” Here are his definitions of the what, how and why.

  • What – every business, organization, and person in these organizations can explain what they do. They can describe their product or their service.
  • How – most every organization can also tell you how they do it.
  • Why – very few organizations can clearly articulate WHY they do WHAT they do.

He explains that most normally when someone is asked about their organization they respond by explaining WHAT they do. They also may throw in HOW they do it. But in most cases leave out WHY they do it. This approach he contends is not inspiring and does nothing to build a following.

Mr. Sinek then gives examples in the book of how great organizations and great leaders don’t start from the outside circle and go in, they inspire and build great organizations because they have thought about and communicated to everyone in their organizations “why” they do what they do. They then use the “reason why” to build a following. He says,

“Most people don’t buy WHAT you do, but WHY you do it.” – Simon Sinek

This concept when applied to Masonry really lit up light bulbs in my head. It caused me to ask the question “Can I explain my WHY when it relates to being a Mason?” Am I able to use my WHY to inspire other men to join? Since I clearly had never thought about it in this context I had to start understanding my WHY.

I realized that discovering my WHY began a number of years ago. I had begun to write and present leadership development programs for the Masonic Fraternity and felt that they needed to tie directly into the beliefs and values taught in the three degrees. I read the ritual of all the degrees to better understand the duties I was asked to assume and the values that are the essence of Masonry.

I didn’t start a journey of deep esoteric inquiry to understand what others thought about Masonry but concentrated on WHY the beliefs and values of Masonry were important to me. HOW was I going to use them in my life?; my life right now.

Each of us may have some simple statements that explain what Masons are or why we joined Masonry. “Masons make good men better,” or “My father or grandfather was a Mason;” or something else along these lines. I as well had a simple reason for joining; my father-in-law was an active Mason and Shriner and he suggested that I should be as well. But these statements do very little to inspire other men to belong.

I suggest that finding your WHY in Masonry is an on-going process. One tied to understanding yourself, the ritual, the lessons and values presented in the degrees and using them to continually educate yourself as you live your life according to Masonic principles.

Here are some steps to follow to help you find your Masonic WHY:

  1. Write your eulogy. Imagined you have died and your family and friends have gathered for your funeral. Who will be there? What would you like them to say about you? By writing your eulogy you will discover the values and behaviors you want to define you.
  2. List the values and behaviors from your eulogy and write a short paragraph explaining what each means to you.
  3. Write a paragraph about Brotherly Love, Relief and Truth. What do these basic tenets mean to you? How has your life changed because Masonry taught you about these things?
  4. Using what you discovered about yourself and your meanings of the tenets of Masonry write a short paragraph you will use when asked “What is a Mason?” or “Why are you a Mason?”

Here is my WHY statement:

“You know I enjoy being around people who have the same values and beliefs I do. I joined the Masons because they are a group of men who have a belief in a supreme being, practice values such as brotherly love, respect, truth, and are dedicated to improving themselves and their communities. We are not concerned about each other’s station in life but what we may learn from each other.  Masonry has allowed me to give deeper meaning to my life by presenting moral lessons for me to learn and live by. It has made me a better child of god, a better neighbor and a better person. Masons are the type of men I want my family to be around.”

What’s yours?

Have a Great Masonic Day!

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How to not get hit by a falling satellite or falling leadership

by Mike
September 30th, 2011

NASA was trying to guess when and where the 6-ton Upper Atmosphere Research Satellite will hit the earth. They said it may occur any time between Thursday September 22nd and Sunday September 25th and could land as far north as Alberta, Canada or as far south as the southernmost tip of South America.

A family in Okotoks, Alberta–a suburb of Calgary–believes they caught footage of the fiery death spasms of NASA’s UARS satellite, parts of which returned to earth early last Saturday morning after two decades in orbit. http://news.cnet.com/8301-1023_3-20111230-93/nasas-falling-satellite-caught-on-video/

In any event it fell, and they had estimated any one person’s odds of being hit by a piece of it were 1 in 21 trillion. So there was no need to wear a helmet unless your luck had gotten you hit by lightning several times and wanted to err on the side of caution.

In stark contrast we all get “hit” every day by falling leadership. The effects are easily observed and can cause serious problems if we do not know how to protect ourselves from the frustration of being around ineffective leaders. The best way to deal with ineffective leaders is to help them. Dr. John Maxwell’s book “The 360° Leader” presents 6 ways to avoid frustration when following an ineffective leader.

  • Develop a solid relationship – instead of trying to stay away from them, get to know them, find common ground on which you can work with them
  • Identify & appreciate your leader’s strengths – even an ineffective leader has strengths; find them and think about how they may be of value to the organization.
  • Commit to adding value to your leader’s strengths – help leverage the leader’s strengths to be of value
  • Get permission to help complement your leader’s weaknesses – once the leader admits their weaknesses find others who can help in the areas the leader is weak
  • Expose your leader to good leadership resources – share material that has helped you
  • Publicly say positive things about the leader – help make the leader’s strengths known which will help build the leader’s confidence.

So instead of trying to avoid the falling debris from an ineffective leader, be a leader yourself and do everything possible to aid, support and show brotherly love. The end result; you get a better leader and you’re a better Mason.

Have a Great Masonic Day!
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Leading with Masonic Values – Brotherly Love

by Mike
July 17th, 2010

I was thinking one day that during my years of service in Masonic organizations I have observed first hand and also heard about some behavior by leaders that made me think at the time that they had forgotten some things they were taught in the Masonic degrees. I have always believed that an essential part of leadership is a correct attitude and what better attitude to assume as a leader than that of one resulting from practicing the three great tenets of Masonry; Brotherly Love, Relief and Truth.

 This thought took me back to the EA degree and how we can use its teachings about the three great tenets of Masonry in conjunction with Dr. John Maxwell’s 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership to improve our Masonic leadership behavior.

Let’s first look at Brotherly love. We find in the EA degree that we first are taught as Masons “to regard the whole human species as one family”… we are then taught “to aid, support, and protect each other.” This part of the ritual then goes on to say; “It is on this principle that Freemasonry unites men of every country, sect and opinion, and conciliates true friendship among those who might otherwise have remained at a perpetual distance.”

A Masonic education course I recently found describes Brotherly Love this way:

“It means that we place on another man the highest possible valuation as a friend, a companion, an associate, a neighbor, a fellow. Merely to be with him, merely to spend hours in his company, to have the privilege of working at his side, is all we ask. We do not ask that from our relationship we make money, or further our business interests, or achieve some other form of selfish gain. Freemasonry takes brotherly love for granted, provides opportunities for us to have fellowship, and encourages us to understand and to practice it, and to make it one of the laws of our existence.”

So how does Brotherly Love relate to leadership?

As you read and begin to understand more fully John Maxwell’s approach to leadership, you will find it is built around relationships. He says your best chance for leadership depends upon connecting with those on your team. He tells us we should look for the following five characteristics in our relationships:

  •  Trust – Maxwell says when you respect people and you spend enough time with them to develop shared experiences, you are in a position to develop trust. However, as Masons, we were taught to trust one another without question. As you recall your condition when you first entered a lodge of EAs, you will also remember that you were told that since you were in no condition to foresee or avoid danger that you were in the hands of a true and trusty friend, in whose fidelity you might safely confide. Masonry is trust and trust is Masonry; When you lead with trust, you lead with Masonry.
  • Respect – you should show it to others even before they have done anything to warrant it simply because they are human beings. Our ritual says it this way: “to regard the whole human species as one family,” So as Masonic leaders leading other Masons, we should lead with respect because following Masonic values, those we lead are the same as we are.
  •  Shared experiences – Maxwell says that you can’t rely on respect alone to develop strong relationships; you must have shared experiences over time. The Masonic education course I talked about said that Brotherly Love allows us to spend time with our fellow Masons, gives us the privilege to work by their side, and grants us opportunities in a position to develop trust.  
  • Reciprocity – team relationships only survive when there is give and take so that everyone benefits as well as gives. As Masons we are taught to “be ready to give as well as receive good consul from a brother.” As a leader we must remember that our positional title does not excuse us from this basic element of Masonry. So when Dr. Maxwell speaks of reciprocity as an element of good relationships, we should already understand this.
  •  Mutual enjoyment- When relationships grow, the people involved begin to enjoy one another’s company. The Masonic concept of Brotherly love contemplates mutual enjoyment. So to lead with Masonic values, we should lead in a way to establish and maintain mutual enjoyment.

So, Leading with Masonic values first starts with refreshing our minds and assuming an attitude of Brotherly Love, one of our basic Masonic tenets. I’m sure after thinking through what I’ve just talked about you can recall some difficult times as a leader that would not have been so difficult and problems much more quickly resolved if everyone had approached it with the attitude of Brotherly Love. I know I can recall some leadership situations that would have been much better had I remembered to lead with Brotherly Love.

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